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2. Know who the fuck…
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Do the right thing and the best you can. The rest will take care of itself.
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There’s always this peculiar disconnect between how people exist in the world and how they think the world is supposed to exist; it’s almost as if Americans can’t accept an important truth about being alive. And this is the truth to which I refer: culture can’t be wrong. That doesn’t mean it’s always “right,” nor does it mean that you always have to agree with it… People can be wrong, and movements can be wrong. But culture - as a whole - cannot be wrong. Culture is just there.
If you feel betrayed by culture, it’s not because you’re right and the universe is fucked; it’s only because you’re not like other people. But this should make you happy, because - in all likelihood - you hate those other people anyway. You are being betrayed by a culture that has no relationship to who you are or how you live.
Do you want to be happy? I suspect that you do. Well, here’s the first step to happiness: don’t get pissed off that people who aren’t you happen to think Paris Hilton is interesting and deserves to be on TV every other day; the fame surrounding Paris Hilton is not a reflection on your life (unless you want it to be).
Don’t get pissed off because people didn’t vote the way you voted; you knew this was a democracy when you agreed to participate, so you knew this was how things might work out. Basically, don’t get pissed off over the fact that the way you feel about culture isn’t some kind of universal consensus. Because if you do, you will end up feeling betrayed. And it will be your own fault. You will feel bad, and you will deserve it.
Now it’s quite possible you disagree with me on this issue. And if you do, I know what your argument is: you’re thinking, “But I’m idealistic!” This is what people who want to inflict their values on other people always think; they think that there is some kind of romantic, respectable aura that insulates the inflexible, and that their disappointment with culture latently proves that they’re tragically trapped by their own intellect and good taste. Somehow, they think their sense of betrayal gives them integrity. It does not. If you really have integrity - if you truly live by your ideals, and those ideals dictate how you engage with the world at large - you will never feel betrayed by culture. You will simply enjoy culture more. You won’t necessarily start watching syndicated episodes of Everybody Loves Raymond, but you will find it interesting that certain people do. You won’t suddenly agree that Amelie was a more emotive movie than Friday Night Lights, but you won’t feel alienated and offended if every film critic tells you that it is. You will care, but you won’t care.
You’re not wrong, and neither is the rest of the world. But you need to accept that those two things aren’t really connected.
Chuck Klosterman, in Esquire, 2005
I post this quote every couple of years, because I think about it several times a week.
This one is dedicated to all the people disappointed by the Grammys this year.
Culture Got You Down? Get over it. You’ll be happier—and a lot less annoying.